“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection” – Buddha
In a society we have to live with others. There are demands to be met. We as individuals have to respond to these demands.
A positive response will lead to constructive emotions,ideas and work.
Negative response to a demand will lead to stress leading us to our own destruction.
Our feelings are linked to our body
Emotional pain gets trapped in the body. It want’s a release. In our daily life we get hurt many times.If we are not able to repair this emotional hurt LOSS OF SELF ESTEEM occurs
PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL PAIN ARE INTERLINKED
The area of brain and neural pathway responsible for physical and emotional pain is the same.Emotional pain can not be perceived by others. Physical pain is easily understood. We divert our emotional pain to a physical one. Sympathetic attitude love and care of our near and dear ones heals the physical pain but it is short lived. Unless we cure our emotional pain physical pain will keep on resurfacing.
Our brain controls our body
Thinking of the pain again and again is because of tunneling effect.The same intrusive thought comes to our mind. It becomes engraved in the brain.Distract yourself from the thought of pain.Refresh your mind.Love your self
REASONS FOR NOT LOVING SELF
1. Not able to cope to changes
2. Not able to cope with failure
3. Not able to maintain relationships
4. Not able to take up challenges at work
5. Not able to forget our past glories
6. Not able to cope with illness
7. Not able to find meaning to our lives
8. Not able to cope with trauma
9. Not able to fulfill our dreams
10. Not able to forgive ourselves for our mistakes
11. Not able to let go
12. Not able to control our anger
Low self-esteem is a path towards self-hate. It can lead to –
1. Anxiety
2. Depression
3. Alcoholism
4. Smoking
5. Eating disorder
LOVE IS A DRUG
Feelings of love can cure pain.Love your family. Love your friends.Love people around you.And most importantly love yourself.
ACCEPT AND LOVE YOUR- SELF
“Eat good food”
1. We depend upon acceptance and validation of others.It is not important.What is important is acceptance from ourselves.
2. Increase Self esteem by taking action.
3. Value yourself and your well being
4. Cherish your company and care for yourself
5. Cook and eat the best food
6. Uplift your mood and personality
7. Sleep well
8. Exercise well
SEEK SUPPORT : There is no shame
It is difficult to discover oneself without support SEEK HELP FROM
1. Therapist
2. Family
3. Trusted friend
